I saw this title in an article recently about building a relationship with your real estate mentor, and I just had to chuckle having just experienced one of those days. Today, I just couldn’t resist incorporating it into my article, because it spells out perfectly in one word what many times turn out badly in a mentoring relationship.
Everyone that has ever started out in this captivating business of real estate investing has discovered pretty quickly that they need a real estate mentor (or three). Some may prefer to utilize the convenience of technology while others want to maintain personal relationships. There is just no getting around it. This is a business that has a million details and nuances.
Most of us struggle for way too long trying to make sense of everything on our own which is usually a bad idea. The other group of folks, believe that someone can save them all the hard work and just answer their constant emails and texts so that they don’t need to do any work whatsoever.
So what is the correct way to work with a real estate mentor?
I have generally discovered that most seasoned real estate investors don’t mind helping out new investors. But there are a few important rules of this game…
Simply Put; “Don’t Be An Askhole”
You will be required to do the vast majority of the work in building your business. As the world becomes a planet of digital natives, more and more data is becoming available to the public. When someone recommends a book, a particular blog or some other free or low-cost material, you should read and study don’t even think about saying “I don’t read much; can you simply answer my (long list) of questions for me?” Yes, that has happened to me a larger number of times than I like to admit.
Be Respectful Of Their Time
On the off chance that your mentor is willing to spend a little time on the phone with you, schedule a specific time to talk. Don’t just ring them up and expect this person to drop everything to dish out free advice. Their time is valuable so be prepared, be concise, brief and keep the conversation short.
Can I Buy You A Cup Of Coffee And Pick Your Brain?
Don’t say this! The person you have approached for free help; the one who has information and years of knowledge you value so much, may almost certainly have some type of course for sale or paid coaching and training programs they offer. Or if they are a professional like a real estate attorney, they charge for their services too. While they are probably more than willing to answer some specific questions or give you some guidance occasionally, they are not willing to “give away the store for free”. That doesn’t pay their mortgage.
When was the last time you went to the grocery, loaded up the basket with food, and put your groceries in the car without paying? I’m guessing … “Never”.
When you approach your mentor and ask if you can “pick their brain” or “get their input”, what you are really saying is “as opposed to paying you the appropriate amount of money you deserve for your time and years of expertise, let me spend a few hours with you so that I can get all you have to offer for $2.00 or the price of a cup of coffee.”
Realize What You Are Willing To Give In Exchange
The best mentoring relationships require give and take. Can you offer something particular in exchange for your mentor’s time if you are getting a freebie? When investing in real estate, you have several methods or strategies available… If you have internet or web design skills, maybe you can trade services. At least, be sure to offer. Sometimes that is all it takes; just the offer to reciprocate and to let them know you will be there when they are ready to collect.
My Final Thoughts
Don’t be an “Askhole”. It all comes down to what is best for business and enabling real estate professionals to stay in alignment with the things they really care about.
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